Monday, October 17, 2016

Does Time heal?.........

It has been awhile since I last posted. Several reasons for that. My computer had to go back to be fixed that was one thing and my camera has died. I had a Kodak camera that I loved. It was getting old and I knew it would die some day. It did and so I bought another. I bought a Canon. I did not seem to have much luck with it and eventually bought another, a Nikon. Well the original camera came back to life after a rest so I continued to use that one.I think it has finally given up for good. (we shall see) I can not get used to either one of the new ones. The Nikon is working but the pictures are not as crisp as my old camera. For some reason the Canon is refusing to work and that's the newest one. So I will have to see what can be done for that. Anyway, the reason for saying all that is NO PICTURES.
We have had Tristen for a couple of weekends and several days here and there. He is settled in to his new home and life but is very sad. When he comes he enjoys himself especially if it's over night but he never wants to leave. It is hard for all of us.
Tomorrow is the court date. I guess signing a paper is not enough for them I actually have to go to court. I hate that. I will never and have never respected the justice system here. I don't trust it. There was nothing to stop the judge throwing Laura H petition out of court. Both the judge and the DHS or child services agreed there was no cause to remove him from our home, but because Laura H refused to give up, they sent it to trial. I refused. I won't go to court and bad mouth everyone, call witnesses and stress people out, make them lose work time and everything else. Beside that we don't have the money. Plus emotionally and physically I just could not stand in the witness box and do what I needed to do. If Tristen were going to a bad home that would have been different. So tomorrow will see the end to this sad episode. It could have been handled so differently. I do not understand how any decent human being can take a child away from people and a home that he loves for no just cause.
That is how it is, and that is how it must be.
So we did several things while Tristen was here. One weekend we went to call of the wild
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and Hardwick Pines State park. A good day out.
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The following day we went to a small zoo in Roscommon
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Tristen said can we do something else fun today? So we stopped at Wellington Farms

Both kids (Reina came too) had a great time, got spoilt and got stuffies and Tee shirts and stuff as reminders.
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After that they were more than ready to go home and Tristen said next time I come over can we stay home and play. I said Yes please.
We have tried to do things with them both now we don't have Tristen all the time. They have been raised together for all intents and purpose. So more like brother and sister than anything else (Reina is really his aunt being his mothers sister).
This past weekend we had him on Saturday, Laura H was on a cruise and he had been with Todd all week. I offered to give Todd a break and he was happy to accept. We went to Pahls Pumpkin Patch
It is usually a good place to go but this time it seemed more like it was for smaller kids. Last time we went they had face painting and crafts and other things to do. This time not so much but it was something to do. The kids were glad for some free time to play at home. Tristen cried when he had to go home. Not sobbing but silent tears running down his face, that seemed worse somehow. Trying to be brave, it breaks my heart. He will be OK though and maybe as time goes on it will all be OK. I can only hope so.

1 comment:

Magic Love Crow said...

Prayers being sent! I am so sorry that your family had to go through all of this! I feel for you! I am happy, you are able to see Tristen! Big Hugs!