Visiting Alexandra................

Laura and me go out to visit quite often and take Tristen. He seems to like going there to the cemetery. Today I had a wreath that I found on Monday when I was out for the day, so while Tristen wandered we got that placed and we checked out the flowers. The mums were still doing well but we left the fake ones anyway because they will be good for several weeks. I need to get some pansies and some Spring bulbs to put in.
Tristen enjoying a walk........



Tristen came running back when he saw the brush to sweep off the stone. He loves that job, and he helped to set the wreath. He is so helpful.



He then pointed to the picture of his mum and himself. Laura asked him who is that? and he said Mama. So he sort of knows in a vague way but how much he really knows is anyone's guess. All I know is that he is happy to go there and its a place he likes to visit. He aways has a good time and so I think its a good way to leave the door open for later explanations when he asks questions.



After that he just skips off looking for sticks.



There is a lovely apple tree close by and so we picked a few and he ate an apple.



The colours were pretty and the squirrels were busy.


They are getting fuzzy and busy storing up food for winter.


We try to make every visit a fun and positive experience for him. I believe that dwelling on her loss is not healthy, we have had that experience with one child in the family already and do not want to make that mistake. Its a matter of keeping it all in perspective. Allowing him to know his mother without having him form an unhealthy obsession.